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2020.11.24 00:22 onestepatatimeman How to deal with sexual frustration and repression?
Hey guys - I would like some sincere and practical advice here.
I have heard the following advice and it does not help - "Sex is overrated", "You are still young and you have time", "The emotional connection is more fulfilling", "Go to a hooker", "Download a dating app".
So, please refrain from it.
I am 24M - I am not great with women. I don't have any female friends and my sex life is nonexistent.
I want to have sex with someone with whom I experience mutual attraction. I want to experience casual sex, loving sex with a partner, NSA sex. I think it is ok to desire these things - but correct me if I am wrong. I used to prioritize these things previously, but lately with a change in perspective I do not prioritize it as much. There are other things in me that demand higher priority - mental health, sociability, human connections, friendships etc.,.
I am currently working on myself, not for girls, but for my own sake. This include going to the gym, getting therapy, dressing better, indulging in my hobbies etc.,. I have been making slow but steady progress.
Regardless, I want to have sex. Arousal is a very natural desire, I believe. I am not looking to become a PUA or a 'Playboy'. I just want to have a healthy sex life in which I can be myself and feel satisfied and fulfilled.
As I go through this phase of self improvement and transformation, how do I keep my mind away from all this sexual frustration? Any time I have a depressive episodes, thoughts of my sexual failure overwhelm me and make me feel pathetic about myself.
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2020.11.19 08:38 Criticel1 What you are looking for is..... (Link in the Desc.)5
2020.11.17 09:36 psychephilic Another dating rant
Thanks for holding space, I just want to vent a bit.
I'm almost 25 and haven't "seriously dated" anyone. Seems to be a common trend for us. And that in and of itself isn't the worst thing-- I think monogamy and the hyper-fixation on "romance" are pretty toxic colonial shit. But damn feeling pretty thoroughly disrespected and rejected for years by intimate and sexual partners hits right in the traumies.
I wasn't involved with anyone at all until college. No dating, kissing, whatever. Pretty thoroughly rejected there, too. And an abusive single mom who did a lot of ego-bashing and confidence-slaying. I wasn't really aware of my sexuality until the end of high school. I entered college-- and being of legal age-- without any dating experience or understanding of healthy relationships.
Tinder and Grindr were my wingmen, since they were already popularly used by the time I was 18. I feel I've internalized a lot of disempowerment because of them. Being 18, 19, 20 on the apps without other gay people to process with led me to just sell out everything for any attention. It seemed like NSA sex was the only way to get people interested. I stopped every saying "date" or "relationship" because those words felt so taboo. Being called fat, having people block me after sending my nudes, having people tell me to die of AIDS because I rejected them, and so on. So I learned to sell out and settle.
I got a "boyfriend" off of Tinder. Kinda dumb young love, we went on like one or two dates and I asked if we could be "exclusive." He said yes. 2 months go by pretty chill. Then he stopped replying randomly for days, broke up with me over text, and refused to talk to me or text me ever again. And from there I just started sleeping with anybody. A lot of older people. Almost all older. I guess I just wanted to feel any love or attention since my mom and my "first love" made me feel so inadequate.
And that's the majority of my experiences. Ghosted. Ghosted ghosted ghosted. Rejected rejected rejected. "Oh you're cool, but I really don't see you in that way." "Bad timing." "Yeah I loved hanging out- let's do it again -> (never replies again)" "I really like you, I might have to make you my boyfriend -> (2 days later) -> hey so never mind I don't want that" "I want something more with you -> (1 week later) -> hey you're too needy and I don't want anything"
I've had some good experiences. A boy in Ireland who was sweet. I was only there for a month, though. Some nice encounters here and there. It feels that every time I've felt strongly about someone, they could not care less about me. I've rarely hung out with someone in any capacity more than twice, because I'm usually ghosted by then.
I was talking to my friends about my experiences and what they said really hit me. They pointed out I have such a defeatist attitude toward dating. And I let people treat me pretty badly. A lot of guys, aside from ghosting, have been hurtful and mean. Or just uncaring and self-centered.
"Dating" feels traumatic to me. I can't relax or have fun because I'm waiting for the ghost or the rejection. I kind of resent the people I talk to because I am so focused on how to not get screwed over. I feel fundamentally unlovable and unworthy with sexual and intimate partners. It really feels like there is something wrong with me that partners pick up on and they just immediately want nothing more to do with me.
It must be the apps, right? But I've seen a lot of people have success. And even if not success, it doesn't seem like people get consistently treated so shittily. But maybe it's this bad for everyone. Bars and clubs and gay events never materialized either.
Or how I'm picking people? Or maybe having sex too quickly? I feel like I have shit taste in people, but I don't really know what I'm doing that leads to picking shit people. None of my sex has ever been satisfying. No one ever chases me. No one seems to want anything to do with me. And I seem to pick out a lot of dudes who are either just leaving or just entering relationships.
I don't really know how to stop this cycle. I don't really know how to watch for clues of abusive or unavailable people. And vice versa, I'm not sure how to identify who nice and compassionate people are. Even when I think I'm choosing well, I get ghosted. I'm a pretty attractive dude, pretty damn good at sex, and pretty sensitive. I feel like there should be more people who want to hang out. But they just don't. It's serious psychological shit to be ghosted dozens of times. I just want to know why. Like, if I could just know, I could make a spreadsheet or something and quantify exactly what keeps happening.
So I'm 24. I feel there's a dialectic of people being shitty and me setting myself up for shitty experiences. I know I am young. I have great friendships. As much as I pretend intimacy shouldn't matter to me, it does.
Can I get some gay hugs and affirmations? Thank you
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2020.11.16 12:03 obviouslygrilled_ How do you approach looking for dates?
I'm just over two weeks in and I feel like I'm starting to come out of the other end of the flatlining stage.
Now my attention is slowly shifting to wanting to find a partner as I'm feeling more comfortable with myself than I was a couple weeks ago. My issue though is that whilst England is still pretty much on lockdown it's very hard to meet people in person, my life at the moment consists of going for walks and going to the supermarket.
So in my mind that just leaves dating apps for the time being as a means for meeting someone. One of the things that made me want to do this in the first place was that I was active on 4 dating apps and was just unsuccessfully looking for nsa sex, I wasn't happy with the way I was talking to women and I'd started to masturbate whilst looking through these apps and messaging people.
I've started to use tinder again over the weekend and so far I've just been focusing on reading their bio and swiping left if I don't feel it's a match or if they haven't written one. I've been strict about only using it for a limited amount of time and I haven't felt the urge to look at porn after using it so far. I guess my question is, does anyone have any alternatives to using dating apps given the current situation? Is anyone else using any currently? Is it smart to forget dating completely until covid restrictions are softened?
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2020.11.14 18:29 ZomBee000 56 [M4F] UK (London or Midlands) - looking for young GF for who wants to be bred
As I've got older, I've decided that there is a lot to be said for being a "dirty old man" with a much younger girlfriend who wants to be bred. It's almost as though I'd feel much happier doing something which is naughty and society doesn't approve of.
I'm interested in hearing from anyone who wants either:
- an NSA or co-parenting donor whilst I don't find the next one!
- to be my young GF, either visiting often or living with me, and would like to be bred sometime soon and let me indulge in impregnation related kinks
- 5'11, white, brown hair, blue eyes
- mid 50s
- self employed professional, degree educated
- very well paid (but not a millionaire 🤣) - I don't expect you to contribute to housing costs.
- married but live separately (so you can stay/live with me)
- bisexual friendly provided this relationship comes first.
- I am a fairly shy person in real life - dating someone younger helps me to be more outgoing
- sexual preferences: fairly vanilla but age gaps, spooning, creampies, breeding, outdoor (weather permitting), sex toys & outfits, light BDSM, open to suggestions.
- have 3 children, would like more if everything still works
- normal interests - musicals, theatre and other live drama.
- any legal age up to 30 considered, comfortable with the 'huuuge' age difference.
- any ethnicity
- comfortable with unprotected sex, birth control entirely your decision
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2020.11.10 09:31 BengalStripes Dating. Seriously. How tf do you do it?!
Okay, I mean like, this subject has probably been beaten to death but I'm curious. To those who date, how on earth do you do it? I try putting myself out there (as much as the 'rona allows for), my profile on dating apps already says clearly that I'm MtF and looking for something serious. But all I get are men who:
A. Have a weird fetish B. Don't read the profile and just look at the pics and then usually either unmatch or 'can offer no more than conversation' C. Want to have NSA sex
Sometimes I can have the most amazing conversations with men, there's chemistry, they flirt but when I want to take it into a serious direction they either ghost or are all like 'oh, I didn't mean it like that, I thought we were just having a normal conversation!!11oneone'.
So... Seriously, how tf do you do it?!
I'm MtF pre-op btw.
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2020.11.10 04:56 comequeen11235 A Weird 'Friendship'
in the beginning of August I got out of a very serious relationship that couldn't have possibly ended worse. I was excited to enter the dating world and was looking for a NSA relationship. I went on a few dates arranged over dating apps, and then I came across a new friend, we'll call him Jake. Jake and I met and enjoyed our time the first time we hung out, we had amazing sex and had a lot of fun together. I wasn't expecting much from him, because we had just met. The next time we hung out, I made it kind of clear that I felt like I was too young for a serious relationship and he agreed with me, and we began opening up about our personal life and previous relationships. It was strange though, I felt like after I told him that I didn't want a relationship he clearly felt more comfortable with me but also began giving me compliments that were more than just friendly. He made a few statements that were a little confusing and hard to read. For example, he asked if people fell in love with me very easily, if he treated me well, if I wanted flowers, and made many comments about how lovely of a lady I was. This was all great to hear and I could tell he genuinely liked talking to me which obviously did not bother me. The issue was that after every time we would hang out he would turn extremely flaky, become distant, disappear and then reappear into my life out of the blue. At our next meeting, I came clean and laid everything out on the table. I told him I didn't like the flakiness, I am his FRIEND who supports him, and I am here for talking about any other girls he's dating or whatever. We were on the same page that we both really liked to hang out and fuck, but then he made comments like "I just really enjoy spending time with you, we don't even have to fuck, we can go home and hold each other and I'd be fine with that." I didn't look too much into it. But then again, he proceeded with the weird flakiness. I enjoy spending time with him and was looking for a more reliable friend with benefits situation so the constant back and forth was exhausting. So I swore him off and told myself it was done. He would reach out here and there, but never followed through with plans. THE WEIRD PART : I live in a big city where seeing people you know out in public really isn't common but I saw him once and didn't say anything because I was biking. He didn't see me. Fast forward to a couple weeks after we had last seen each other, I run into him AGAIN. I was with a friend so I just walked away pretending like I didn't notice. Immediately after, I get a call from him asking if I wanted to get a drink. I know I shouldn't have agreed to it, but I think he's an awesome person and I really truly enjoy his company so I agreed to it. We met up, we grabbed dinner and drinks and honestly it was the most fun we had together. We always have a good time together, so I don't understand the flakiness. It was weird though, he acted in ways that a boyfriend would around me. He was touching my face, pretty PDA at the bar, and we had very intimate conversations. He mentioned that he wanted me to hang out with him and his friends, he mentioned grabbing drinks at his friend's bar, and just said a lot of things that got me confused. He said that the only people that could make him cum from just having sex was me and his ex girlfriend and that he thought about me a lot... I could be wrong, but that's weird right? I cannot interpret this man's actions and have asked him about his expectations in the past and we were on the same page. I can't lie I definitely developed some sort of feelings for him but I've come to terms with the fact that we aren't going to date. It's just all really odd and weird, it seems like he likes me but doesn't want to? What do you guys think?
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2020.11.06 16:30 jacksoneddie Not sure if this belongs here. Please be kind.
48 and masculine.
I weld, own guns, can fix my own car, drink bourbon and smoke cigars. Ima rootin-tootin cowboy. I recently started to accept my bi-side and explore, with my wife’s approval. I met a very handsome man on a dating app, who is openly gay but not fem, we had some very good conversations. The attraction was equally mutual, we eventually exchanged numbers and texted each other often.
I can’t express how hard it is to find someone with patience and not a total creep. I’ve spoke to several guys before and most would either make my skin crawl or just want to blow and go, some just disappear. I, not sure if anyone else feels this way, but I need some kind of relationship before I would be willing to have nsa sex with a man, at least at this moment in my life.
Me and my new guy went on two dates and had a great time. Our text messages got more intense and sexual at times, often would end with good nights, and start with a pleasant good morning message. We agreed to take it to the next level and finally meet for night of passion and enthusiastically, willingly, give him my gay “v-card”.
It never happened. He said it would be too awkward with me being married. I was always upfront and honest about my wife and that i would never leave her for anything. I even explained that I had her approval to have a romantic relationship and permission to spend as much time needed with him. So, now I’m either going to quit trying, or take a break for the foreseeable future.
Apologies for the ramble but I just needed a place to express this and vent. Being a bisexual man is not easy and incredibly frustrating. My bi-cycle is leaning more in the gay spectrum as of now which doesn’t make this easier.
One takeaway from this experience; I kissed a guy and I liked it.
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2020.11.05 03:11 GenerallyObservant 30 [m4f] good looking stud needs a fun FWB
Hey there, I’m a 30-year-old white guy living in San Francisco. I’m told him good luck young and well endowed. I’m looking for a FWB, but open to relationships, NSA, and hot wife/cuckold arrangements.
Have a few NSFW pics in profile (softie most recent.) won’t exchange face pics or post them.
6’2, 190 fit, masculine, talented lover. Have a 1BR in the city and can host. DDF and covid free only. 420 is chill.
Down for dates, hiking, camping, and romantic stuff too. But for right now, I want to have wild sex with a good looking and confident woman.
Hit me up!
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2020.11.04 06:39 PlaidParty13 27 M4F Looking for makeout buddy/coach
I'm pretty inexperienced as far as the physical aspects of relationships go, and I can tell it's an issue for some of the people I've dated. So I'm looking to improve my skills with making out. I'm 27, single, pretty fit, described by my ex as "cute" and "handsome". I'm looking for someone who is comfortable with NSA making out but is okay with it not progressing to sex. Able to host.
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2020.11.03 04:24 niftyww First date and it's going too fast
I had a first date with this guy, (met him on match) very handsome although short, has a good job, well dressed, the whole 9 yards. I liked him a lot. We had a good conversation and exchanged phone numbers at the end.
I sent him a text after the date explaining that I have bipolar disorder (I feel like it's better to get it out of the way sooner so that I don't waste my time) and he texted back that it's ok because I take medication. He said there could be a problem though because I live with my mom and she doesn't like me to bring men home.
So I said can't I just go to your house? and he said his landlord says no guests. So I said what about a hotel? And then the conversation kind of turned into a sexual one. When I've been on one date with him. And I'm looking for a real relationship, not one based on sex. I told him I'm not looking for NSA or ONS, and he said that's ok he's looking for a relationship too. My question is, can this be salvaged and if so how long do I need to wait before having sex? Also, I told him I need to see STD tests first and he seemed shocked by that and insisted he is clean. So that could be a problem too. What do you guys think?
EDIT: I don't think anybody will see this, but I wanted to leave a note saying that I ended up blocking this guy on my cell phone. He knows my full name (a unique name) and my email address, and my cell number. I'm definitely uncomfortable about that. We spoke about having sex but he got really personal and demanding and it made me really uncomfortable and I finally was just like, Don't I have any self respect? So yeah.
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2020.11.02 10:14 Candy-Reasonable /r/neoliberal election the Speaker of the US House of Representatives, 2021 [ Read the entire post before voting! ]
The /neoliberal election : Speaker of the House of Representatives Nancy Patricia Pelosi (née D'Alesandro) :
(She) is an American politician serving as Speaker of the United States House of Representatives since 2019, and previously from 2007 to 2011. Pelosi has served as a U.S. Representative from California since 1987. A member of the Democratic Party, she is the only woman in U.S. history to serve as Speaker and the highest-ranking female elected official in United States history.
Pelosi was first elected to Congress in 1987, following her father, Thomas D'Alesandro Jr., who served as a U.S. representative from Maryland and Mayor of Baltimore, into politics. She is the dean of California's congressional delegation, having begun her 17th term in 2019. Pelosi represents California's 12th congressional district, which comprises four-fifths of the city and county of San Francisco. She initially represented the 5th district (1987–93), and then, when district boundaries were redrawn after the 1990 Census, the 8th district (1993–2013). Pelosi has led the House Democrats since 2003—the first woman to lead a party in Congress—serving twice each as House minority leader (2003–07 and 2011–19) and as Speaker (2007–11 and since 2019).
Pelosi was a major opponent of the Iraq War as well as the Bush administration's 2005 attempt to partially privatize Social Security. During her first speakership, she was instrumental in the passage of many of the Obama administration's landmark bills, including the Affordable Care Act, the Dodd–Frank Wall Street Reform and Consumer Protection Act, the Don't Ask, Don't Tell Repeal Act, the American Recovery and Reinvestment Act, and the 2010 Tax Relief Act.
Pelosi lost the speakership in 2011 after the Republican Party won a majority in the House of Representatives in the 2010 elections. But she retained her role as leader of the House Democratic Caucus and returned to the role of House minority leader. In the 2018 midterm elections, the Democrats regained control of the House. When the 116th Congress convened on January 3, 2019, Pelosi was again elected speaker, becoming the first former speaker to return to the post since Sam Rayburn in 1955. Under Pelosi's leadership, the House of Representatives impeached President Donald Trump on December 18, 2019. Her Political Positions :
1. Pelosi was a founding member of the Congressional Progressive Caucus, but left in 2003 after being elected House minority leader.
- The American Civil Liberties Union's Congressional Scorecard has given Pelosi a lifetime rating of 92% for her voting record on civil liberties. In 2001, she voted in favor of the USA Patriot Act, but voted against reauthorization of certain provisions in 2005. She voted against a Constitutional amendment banning flag-burning.
- Pelosi voted against the Secure Fence Act of 2006.
- In June 2018, Pelosi visited a federal facility used to detain migrant children separated from their parents and subsequently called for the resignation of Department of Homeland Security Secretary Kirstjen Nielsen. In July, Pelosi characterized the compromise immigration bill by the Republicans as a "deal with the devil" and noted she had not had conversations with House Speaker Ryan about a legislative solution to the separation of families at the southern border.
- Pelosi has long supported LGBT rights. In 1996, she voted against the Defense of Marriage Act, and in 2004 and 2006, she voted against the proposed Federal Marriage Amendment, which would amend the United States Constitution to define marriage federally as being between one man and one woman, thereby overriding states' individual rights to legalize same-sex marriage. When the Supreme Court of California overturned the state's ban on marriage between same-sex couples in 2008, Pelosi released a statement welcoming the "historic decision". She also indirectly voiced her opposition to California Proposition 8, a successful 2008 state ballot initiative which defined marriage in California as a union between one man and one woman.
- The LGBT advocacy group Human Rights Campaign gave Pelosi a 100% rating in 2006 for her voting record in the 107th through 109th congresses (2001–2006), indicating that she voted favorably on legislation supported by the organization on every occasion. In 2012, Pelosi said her position on LGBT rights such as same-sex marriage grows from and reflects her Catholic faith; it also places her at odds with Catholic doctrine, which defines marriage as a union between one man and one woman. She said "My religion compels me—and I love it for it—to be against discrimination of any kind in our country, and I consider [the ban on gay marriage] a form of discrimination. I think it's unconstitutional on top of that."
- Pelosi supports the Equality Act, a bill that would expand the federal Civil Rights Act of 1964 to ban discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. In 2019, she spoke in Congress in favor of the bill and called for ending discrimination against LGBT people. Pelosi also opposes Trump's transgender military ban.
- Pelosi supports reform in marijuana laws, although NORML's deputy director Paul Armentano said she and other members of Congress had not done anything to change the laws. She also supports use of medical marijuana.
- Pelosi supports the Bush/Obama NSA surveillance program PRISM.
- As speaker of the House, Pelosi quietly moved the statue of Robert E. Lee from the National Statuary Hall of the U.S. Capitol to the Capitol crypt. In Lee's place, she had a statue of Rosa Parks erected. In August 2017, Pelosi said she supported the removal of Confederate monuments and memorials from the Capitol Building.
- In 2002, while Pelosi was the ranking member of the House Intelligence Committee, she was briefed on the ongoing use of "enhanced interrogation techniques", including waterboarding, authorized for a captured terrorist, Abu Zubaydah.
In an April 2009 press conference, Pelosi said, "In that or any other briefing ... we were not, and I repeat, were not told that waterboarding or any of these other enhanced interrogation techniques were used. What they did tell us is that they had some legislative counsel—the Office of Legislative Counsel opinions that they could be used, but not that they would. And they further [...] the point was that if and when they would be used, they would brief Congress at that time."
- Pelosi voted against the 1995 Balanced Budget Proposed Constitutional Amendment. (It eventually failed in the Senate.)
- As speaker of the house, she also spearheaded the Fair Minimum Wage Act of 2007 as part of the 100-Hour Plan. The Act raises the minimum wage in the United States and the territories of the Northern Marianas Islands and American Samoa. American Samoa was initially absent from the act, but as part of HR 2206 it was included.
- Pelosi opposed the welfare reform proposed by President Bush as well as reforms proposed and passed under President Clinton. She also opposed the tax reform signed by President Trump in December 2017, describing it as "probably one of the worst bills in the history of the United States of America ... It robs from the future [and] it rewards the rich ... and corporations at the expense of tens of millions of working middle-class families in our country."
- In 1999, Pelosi voted against displaying the Ten Commandments in public buildings, including schools. Pelosi voted for the No Child Left Behind Act, which instituted testing to track students' progress and authorized an increase in overall education spending.
- In 2019, Pelosi said climate change was "the existential threat of our time", and called for action to curb climate change.
Pelosi has supported the development of new technologies to reduce U.S. dependence upon foreign oil and remediate the adverse environmental effects of burning fossil fuels. Pelosi has widely supported conservation programs and energy research appropriations. She has also voted to remove an amendment that would allow for oil and gas exploration in the Arctic National Wildlife Refuge.
Pelosi has blocked efforts to revive offshore oil drilling in protected areas, reasoning that offshore drilling could lead to an increase in dependence on fossil fuels.
- Pelosi was instrumental in passing the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act of 2010. She was a key figure in convincing President Barack Obama to continue pushing for health-care reform after the election of Massachusetts Senator Scott Brown in a January special election—a defeat seen as potentially fatal to Democratic reform efforts.
- She does not endorse Senator Bernie Sanders' bill for single-payer healthcare.
- Pelosi voted against the Partial-Birth Abortion Ban Act of 2003 and earlier attempts at similar bans, and voted against the criminalization of certain situations where a minor is transported across state lines for an abortion (HR 748, passed).
She has voted in favor of lifting the ban on privately funded abortions at overseas U.S. military facilities (HA 209, rejected); in favor of an amendment that would repeal a provision forbidding servicewomen and dependents from getting an abortion in overseas military hospitals (HA 722, rejected); and in favor of stripping the prohibition of funding for organizations working overseas that use their own funds to provide abortion services, or engage in advocacy related to abortion services (HA 997, rejected). She also voted in favor of the 1998 Abortion Funding Amendment, which would have allowed the use of district funds to promote abortion-related activities, but would have prohibited the use of federal funds.
- She supports contraception and family planning.
- Pelosi stands in favor of increased background checks for potential gun owners, as well as the banning of assault weapons.
In 2012, she was given a 0% rating by Gun Owners of America and a 7% rating from the National Rifle Association for her stances on gun control.
On Foreign Policy :
- With regard to Representative Charles Rangel's (D-NY) plan to introduce legislation that would reinstate the draft, Pelosi said she did not support it.
- In January 2019 she supported President Trump in his decision to back the leader of the opposition Juan Guaidó during Venezuelan protests and constitutional crisis.
- Pelosi initially resisted efforts by some fellow House Democrats to pursue Trump's impeachment, but in September 2019, following revelations of the Trump–Ukraine scandal, announced the beginning of a formal House impeachment inquiry, saying, "The actions taken to date by the president have seriously violated the Constitution" and that Trump "must be held accountable—no one is above the law."
- The House impeachment inquiry focused on efforts by Trump and Trump administration officials to pressure the government of Ukraine to smear former Vice President Joe Biden, a political rival of Trump's, while withholding $400 million in U.S. military aid, and a White House visit, from Ukraine; the inquiry also examined Trump's request in a July 2019 phone call to Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky to "do us a favor" and investigate Biden. On December 18, 2019, the House voted nearly along party lines to impeach Trump for abuse of power (230–197) and obstruction of Congress (229–198), making him the third president in U.S. history to be impeached.
1. In 2008, after a meeting with the Dalai Lama and officials in the Tibetan government-in-exile, Pelosi criticized the People's Republic of China for its handling of the unrest in Tibet; addressing a crowd of thousands of Tibetans in Dharamsala, India, Pelosi called on "freedom-loving people" worldwide to denounce China for its human rights abuses in Tibet.
- The same year, Pelosi commended the European Parliament for its "bold decision" to award the Sakharov Prize for Freedom of Thought to Chinese dissident and human rights activist Hu Jia, and called upon the Chinese government "to immediately and unconditionally release Hu Jia from prison and to respect the fundamental freedoms of all the people in China."
- Pelosi criticized the imprisonment of Hong Kong democracy activists in August 2017 for their roles in a protest at the Civic Square in front of the Central Government Complex in Hong Kong. She called the ruling an injustice that should "shock the conscience of the world".
- In September 2019, Pelosi met with Hong Kong pro-democracy activist Joshua Wong on Capitol Hill; Chinese media responded by accusing Pelosi of "backing and encouraging radical activists".
- Pelosi publicly scolded Colombian president Álvaro Uribe during Uribe's May 2007 state visit to America. Pelosi met with Uribe and later released a statement that she and other members of Congress had "expressed growing concerns about the serious allegations" of links between paramilitary groups and Colombian government officials. Pelosi also came out against the Colombian free-trade agreement.
- In 2008, Pelosi said: "For years, I have opposed the embargo on Cuba. I don't think it's been successful, and I think we have to remove the travel bans and have more exchanges—people to people exchanges with Cuba."
- Pelosi opposed U.S. intervention in the 1991 Gulf War.
- Pelosi has generally supported normalization of relations with Iran.
- In 2002, Pelosi opposed the Iraq Resolution authorizing President George W. Bush to use military force against Iraq, which passed the House on a 296–133 vote.
- Pelosi reaffirms that "America and Israel share an unbreakable bond: in peace and war; and in prosperity and in hardship". Pelosi emphasized that "a strong relationship between the United States and Israel has long been supported by both Democrats and Republicans. America's commitment to the safety and security of the State of Israel is unwavering, ... [h]owever, the war in Iraq has made both America and Israel less safe." Pelosi's voting record shows consistent support for Israel. Pelosi voted in favor of the Jerusalem Embassy Act of 1995, which urged the federal government to relocate the American embassy in Israel to Jerusalem. Prior to 2006 elections in the Palestinian Authority, she voted for a Congressional initiative disapproving of participation in the elections by Hamas and other organizations defined as terrorist by the legislation. She agrees with the current U.S. stance in support of land-for-peace. She has applauded Israeli "hopeful signs" of offering land while criticizing Palestinian "threats" of not demonstrating peace in turn. She states, "If the Palestinians agree to coordinate with Israel on the evacuation, establish the rule of law, and demonstrate a capacity to govern, the world may be convinced that finally there is a real partner for peace".
- Pelosi has voiced heavy criticism over Israel's plan to annex parts of the West Bank and Jordan Valley. She said Israeli annexation would undermine U.S. national security interests.
- Nancy Pelosi is one of the few members of Congress to have traveled to North Korea. She has expressed concern about the danger of nuclear proliferation from the North Korean regime, and the ongoing problems of hunger and oppression imposed by that country's leadership.
In August 2017, following Trump's warning that North Korea "will be met with fire and fury like the world has never seen" in the event of further threats to the United States, Pelosi said the comments were "recklessly belligerent and demonstrate a grave lack of appreciation for the severity of the North Korean nuclear situation. His saber-rattling and provocative, impulsive rhetoric erode our credibility."
- Pelosi opposes the actions of the current Russian regime.
- Pelosi supported the NATO-led military intervention in Libya in 2011. She also favored arming Syria's rebel fighters.
- In January 2019, Pelosi criticized President Trump's planned withdrawal of U.S. troops from Syria and Afghanistan. She called Trump's announcement a "Christmas gift to Vladimir Putin".
- In mid-October 2007, after the House Foreign Affairs Committee passed a resolution to label the 1915 killing of Armenians by Ottoman Turks as genocide, Pelosi pledged to bring the measure to a vote. The draft resolution prompted warnings from President Bush and fierce criticism from Turkey, with Turkey's Prime Minister saying that approval of the resolution would endanger U.S.–Turkey relations. After House support eroded, the measure's sponsors dropped their call for a vote, and in late October Pelosi agreed to set the matter aside.
The resolution was passed during Pelosi's second term as a speaker. The house voted 405 to 11 in October 2019 to confirm the resolution. Kevin Owen McCarthy
: *(He) is an American politician serving as House Minority Leader in the United States House of Representatives since 2019. A member of the Republican Party, he previously served as House Majority Leader under Speakers John Boehner and Paul Ryan from 2014 to 2019. He has been the U.S. Representative for California's 23rd congressional district since 2007.
He was formerly chairman of the California Young Republicans and the Young Republican National Federation. McCarthy worked as district director for U.S. Representative Bill Thomas, and in 2000 was elected as a trustee to the Kern Community College District. He then served in the California State Assembly from 2002 to 2006, the last two years as Minority Leader. When Thomas retired from the U.S. House in 2006, McCarthy ran to succeed him and won the election. California's 23rd district, numbered as the 22nd district from 2007 to 2013, is based in Bakersfield and includes large sections of Kern County and Tulare County, as well as part of the Quartz Hill neighborhood in northwest Los Angeles County.
McCarthy was elected to House leadership as the Republican Chief Deputy Whip, from 2009 to 2011, and House Majority Whip, from 2011 until August 2014, when he was elected House Majority Leader to replace the outgoing Eric Cantor, who was defeated in his primary election. After announcing his candidacy for Speaker on September 28, 2015, he dropped out of the race on October 8 in favor of Paul Ryan.
When the Republicans lost their majority in the 2018 midterm elections, McCarthy was subsequently elected as House Minority Leader in January 2019, making him the first California Republican to hold the post. McCarthy was also the unsuccessful Republican nominee for Speaker in 2019, losing the election to Nancy Pelosi, a fellow Californian. His Political Positions :
On Foreign Policy : 1. McCarthy received campaign donations from Saudi Arabia's lobbyists. 2. On June 15, 2016, McCarthy told a group of Republicans, "There's two people I think Putin pays: Rohrabacher and Trump. Swear to God." Paul Ryan reminded colleagues the meeting was off the record, saying, "No leaks. This is how we know we're a real family here." When asked about the comment, McCarthy's spokesman said that "the idea that McCarthy would assert this is absurd and false." After a tape of the comment was made public in May 2017, McCarthy claimed it was "a bad attempt at a joke. 3. In 2019, McCarthy had threatened to take "action" against two new Muslim congresswomen, Rashida Tlaib and Ilhan Omar, who have sharply criticized the Israeli government's policies in the Palestinian territories and embraced the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement. McCarthy said that if Democrats "do not take action I think you'll see action from myself." 4. McCarthy voiced support for Hong Kong protesters. He wrote that "the NBA seems more worried about losing business than standing up for freedom." 5. In January 2020, after the United States assassinated a top Iranian General Qasem Soleimani, McCarthy criticized his Democratic counterpart in the House, Nancy Pelosi, for "defending" Soleimani. 6. McCarthy said he supported Israel's planned annexation of the West Bank. He signed a letter addressed to Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu that reaffirms "the unshakeable alliance between the United States and Israel". 7. As House majority leader, McCarthy led efforts to repeal the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (ACA or Obamacare). In March 2017, the House Republican repeal legislation, the American Health Care Act, was pulled from the floor minutes before a scheduled vote. Following changes made during an internal Republican debate, the bill narrowly passed the House, 217–213, in a May 2017 party-line vote. 8. McCarthy opposed the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 2009, which added perceived gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, and disabilities as protected classes under existing federal hate crimes law. He has voted against the Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 2007. 9. Throughout 2018, McCarthy opposed efforts to codify the legal status of DREAMers after Trump suspended Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA) which provided temporary stay for undocumented immigrants brought to the United States as minors. McCarthy opposed efforts to codify the DACA protection because he thought it would depress turnout among the Republican base in the upcoming 2018 midterms elections. According to Politico, it was thought a DACA-type bill could have also undermined McCarthy's chances of becoming House Speaker after Paul Ryan retired from Congress, as it would have made it harder for McCarthy to attract the support of hard-line conservatives. 10. In July 2018, House Democrats called for a floor vote that sought to abolish U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE). House GOP leaders scrapped the latter and called for the House to vote on a resolution authored by McCarthy and Clay Higgins to support ICE. House Speaker Paul Ryan's spokeswoman said Democrats "will now have the chance to stand with the majority of Americans who support ICE and vote for this resolution", or otherwise follow "extreme voices on the far left calling for abolishment of an agency that protects us." 11. In June 2019, Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, compared the holding centers for undocumented immigrants at the Mexico–United States border to "concentration camps". McCarthy strongly criticized her words, saying they showed disrespect for Holocaust victims. 12. McCarthy was a supporter of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which barred federal recognition of same-sex marriage and banned same-sex couples from receiving federal spousal benefits; after President Barack Obama instructed the Justice Department not to defend the law in court, McCarthy supported House Republicans' legal defense of the law. When the DOMA case reached the Supreme Court in 2013, McCarthy joined Boehner and Eric Cantor in signing a brief urging the Court to uphold the law. 13. McCarthy has a "D-" rating from NORML regarding his voting record on cannabis-related matters. He voted against allowing veterans' access to medical marijuana, if legal in their state, per their Veterans Health Administration doctor's recommendation. 14. McCarthy introduced the FORWARD Act in 2018, which "would provide $95 million in research funding for valley fever and other fungal diseases". The bill provides $5 million for a "blockchain pilot program", facilitating sharing data between doctors and scientists researching such diseases. It would also fund $8 million in matching grant money to be awarded every year for five years to local groups applying for research grants, as well as $10 million each year for five years to CARB-X, a U.S. Department of Health and Human Services public-private partnership. 15. On October 23, 2018, McCarthy tweeted that Democratic donors businessman George Soros, businessman Tom Steyer and former New York Mayor Mike Bloomberg, were trying to “buy” the upcoming election. 16. Steyer said McCarthy's tweet was a "straight-up antisemitic move" because the three Democrats are Jewish. 17. McCarthy claims that social media platforms, such as Twitter, are actively censoring conservative politicians and their supporters. He called on Twitter CEO Jack Dorsey to testify before Congress on the matter. 18. McCarthy also suggested that Google was biased against Republicans due to some of its short-lived vandalism of the English Wikipedia entry on the California Republican Party that was automatically indexed in the search results. Protest Vote
- In 2003, while minority leader in the state assembly, McCarthy "support[ed] most abortion rights, but oppose[d] spending tax dollars on abortions". By 2015, however, McCarthy was a "staunch anti-abortion-rights advocate." McCarthy is a supporter of the Hyde Amendment (a provision, annually renewed by Congress since 1976, that bans federal funds for abortion), and in 2011 co-sponsored a bill, the "No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act", to make the Hyde Amendment permanent. This bill was especially controversial because it provided an exemption for funding terminations of pregnancies caused by only "forcible rape", which prompted abortion-rights activists to call the bill a redefinition of rape.
- On September 17, 2020, McCarthy voted against House Resolution 908 to condemn racism against Asian-Americans related to the COVID-19 pandemic. McCarthy said the resolution was, "a waste of time," and further that, "At the heart of this resolution is the absurd notion that referring to the virus as a Wuhan virus or the China virus is the same as contributing to violence against Asian Americans."
- McCarthy was an early supporter of Trump in the 2016 Republican presidential primaries, saying that Trump's "intensity" could help the Republicans win House seats.
- After the 2018 mid-term elections, in which Democrats won a majority in the House, McCarthy said that Democrats should not investigate President Donald Trump. He described investigations of Trump as a "small agenda", and that "America's too great of a nation to have such a small agenda."
- McCarthy and other House Republicans investigated Hillary Clinton for years over the 2012 Benghazi attack. In 2015, McCarthy said that the investigation, which found no evidence of wrong-doing on Clinton's part, had hurt poll numbers.
- In October 2019, McCarthy said "there's nothing that the president did wrong" in regards to President Trump requesting that the Ukrainian President start an investigation into 2020 Democratic presidential candidate Joe Biden. McCarthy added, "the President wasn't investigating a campaign rival, the President was trying to get to the bottom, just as every American would want to know, why did we have this Russia hoax that actually started within Ukraine."
- That same month, when Trump said "China should start an investigation into the Bidens", McCarthy shortly thereafter went on Fox & Friends to say, "You watch what the president said — he's not saying China should investigate."
- He's a climate change denier and supports ending environmental regulations.
- More recently, as House minority leader, McCarthy proposed several environmental bills designed to address climate change, which have been described as "narrow" and "modest". They include provisions to extend a tax credit for carbon capture technologies, and to plant trees.
- In 2014, McCarthy opposed the renewal of the charter of the Export-Import Bank of the United States, as he expects the private sector to take over the role.
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2020.10.30 05:33 DaddyFlying Proper way to show disinterest.
Had two recent SB possibilities:
SB1 - first meet was cool, nice date. she reached out wanting to discuss allowance before our second date.. second date and I realize she’s kinda goofy, she wore yoga pants and it revealed that she didn’t really have a body shape.. midway through the date she tripped and injured herself, and lost her car keys at the same time. smh. I stuck through the 2nd date and drove her home. At this point it was clear I didn’t want to pursue anything with her. We never texted each other again. It was a grey area - Should I have offered to buy her a replacement car key? idk, but tbh I was over it.
SB2 - we met, had a walk and chatted. she’s a teacher and was dressed pretty modest. didn’t think about her in a sexual way at all. later that night she started sending nudes and vids of her barebacking with her ex-bf. it actually turned me off, but she had a nice body. I called her to come to my place. Great sex (wore protection), but no real chemistry.. for now it’s ppm, she likes being on camera and is super freaky. You’d think this would be great, but I’m bored.. been slowly pulling back. For now it’s more NSA, FWB, PPM.
Anyone else not having a good time in the bowl lately?
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2020.10.23 10:33 Logiman43 How PIS destroyed Poland.
EDIT: This post is in an article format with pictures and graphs here
I can't be silent anymore. In 2018, out of 1076 abortions in Poland, 1 was because of rape, 25 because it was dangerous for the woman's life and 1050 because of an unhealthy fetus
. It means that PIS just totally banned abortion in Poland
Too few Europeans are aware of the depth of this crisis. The current Polish government is destroying the country from inside-out with its nepotism, religious zeal, communistic tactics, social programs and funding verge organizations (or trolls). It breaks every single law, making unconstitutional laws since 2015 and destroying the court of law. How Poland is pushing EU into crisis - rise of populism. The video is 2 years old and now it's worst
PIS staffed every single judicial court with its own people (ending the impartiality of judges). The very aggressive social 500+ program increased the job inactivity of Poles to 48%
(48% of 15+ Polish citizens are NEET. Unemployment is at 5-6%). The Job vacancies in Poland are at the lowest level in EU
. The corruption and nepotism is rampant, more than 1000 family members and friends are in public companies or in different Ministries. Polish PIS high ranking politicians are also making money together with pimps and mafia (see scandals down there). They are also giving millions of euros from public money to the Catholic Church. They are paying trolls to spew hate on Facebook, via Whatsapp and on the web. Some of them are hiding and not prosecuting pedophiles in the Catholic Church. Poland has almost the lowest innovation in EU
. In 15 indexes tracking freedom and democracy in Europe Poland went from an average position of 12 out of 28 in 2010 to 23 out of 28 in 2019
. I mean, not to diminish Trump’s “awesomeness” but imagine if the WHOLE republican party in the US was Trump-like. Shady deals, family in the govt, creating discord, staffing courts with their own judges. I’m just mortified.
For further reading I recommend: Sadurski, Wojciech. "Poland's Constitutional Breakdown", Oxford University Press, 2019.
Acronyms and main characters:
- PIS- current govt, Law and Justice, a fringe party with populist programs. Majority in Parliament. President is also from PIS. Opposition has the Senate.
- J. Kaczynski, PIS leader, Twin brother of the dead Polish president
- Z. Ziobro, General Prosecutor and Minister of Justice. PIS
- A. Duda, President. PIS
- M. Banas, Head of the Supreme Audit office. PIS
- M. Morawiecki, Prime minister. PIS
- T. Rydzyk Catholic priest, founder of the conservative Radio Maryja station and tv TRWAM
- J. Kurski, chairman of the Polish national state broadcaster TVP. PIS
- M. Kuchcinski, ex-Marshal of the lower house. PIS
- B. Szydlo, ex-prime minister. PIS
PiS changes electoral rules in an unconstitutional move. Presidential "elections" 2020 are the Biggest legal blunder of the year Poland Is Showing the World How Not to Run a Pandemic Election. The upcoming Polish election is shaping up to be a farce. Washington should learn from Warsaw’s mistakes before November. Why Poland’s “ghost election” sends a warning about its democracy Wikipedia about this blunder
- Pis doesn't want to declare a constitutional state of emergence or state of natural disaster because it would postpone the elections. So they declared a state of epidemic that doesn't allow to limit the freedom of movement or other liberties Ombudsman opinion
- At first, PiS decided to hold the presidential elections on 10 May despite the public outcry at holding elections at the height of a pandemic. The adoption of generalised voting by post by the Polish parliament, about one month before the planned elections, violates several constitutional standards. It breaches a prohibition on making changes to the electoral law less than six months before an election and a ban on hiding new laws under the guise of amendments to an existing draft.
- Then PiS has excluded a key institution from the process of preparing the elections: the National Electoral Commission (PKW), which can no longer print the voting cards. On the 17th of April president Andrzej Duda signed a bill depriving the PKW of the powers to organise elections
- So in a particularly Kafkaesque twist, the ministry appointed J. Sasin, one of the MP, to organize the elections and he printed 30M ballots before the special election legislation was even signed into law. For months there was a ballot hunt to know where the ballots are stored. 70 million zloty bill for Poland’s abandoned presidential election
- At 02:26 am on 23 April, every Polish mayor and city council president received an anonymous, unsigned e-mail from Polish Post saying that they were required to deliver the private data of 30 million Polish citizens including their PESEL (national identification number), date of birth, address, and other private data in a .txt file format lacking any passwords or security. But local governments, which hold that data, are refusing to hand it over, arguing that the postal service has no legal right to get the files.
- On 29 April 2020, 11 days before the planned election date, election candidate Żółtek presented a copy of an "unlawful" electoral ballot at a press conference. It had NO securities to prevent counterfeit copies (reminder: As of 2 May 2020, Polish law did not authorise Poczta Polska to organise postal voting nor printing of ballots) . Poczta Polska notified the Internal Security Agency about the leak. But how to prove something that shouldn't exist? So many trolls just printed the copy and put it in mailboxes and on the street Picture of police trying to see if this is a copy or not of an illegal ballot
- 4 days before the election, “Simply put, in a democratic country, the government decided — consciously — not to organise the election of the head of state.” Collapse of Polish democracy “What happened with this agreement is truly unprecedented: the presidential election in Poland was not postponed, it was just cancelled,”. As the leaders reached their agreement, no constitutional institution was involved in the process, including the electoral commission, the president, the Sejm and the Supreme Court – the latter was meant to cancel the election according to the letter of the document. However, the two politicians could be certain that their agreement, although un-constitutional, would prove effective because of the complete take-over of the Supreme Court by the Law and Justice nominees since the beginning of May following the expiry of the term of the former President of the Supreme Court Małgorzata Gersdorf. Still, it is highly unusual for the leaders of political parties to openly state what the Supreme Court would decide. Source
- 3 days before the election, the National Electoral Commission (PKW) - controlled by PIS since a month- declared that the election would not be able to take place on 10 May 2020 because there were no candidates???!!! Source So the candidates will need to ONCE again collect 100k signatures to be eligible to be candidates.
- On 3 June 2020, the Marshal of the Sejm ordered the first round of the election to be held on 28 June 2020.
- And now the cherry on top. Elections on 28 june 2020 are UNCONSTITUTIONAL why? art 128.2 of the constitution: "The election of the President of the Republic shall be ordered by the Marshal of the Sejm to be held on a day no sooner than 100 days and no later than 75 days before expiry of the term of office of the serving President of the Republic, and in the event of the office of President of the Republic falling vacant - no later than the 14th day thereafter(...)". June 28 was 70 days before the expiry. So the next election must be announced within 14 days after the office of president is vacated. So the Speaker of the Sejm can announce new elections AT THE EARLIEST after 6th of August. source
- The whipped cream on top of the cherry? These elections are not free, not secret and not for everyone. They are not free because the electoral commission is controlled by PIS, they are not secret because if you vote via post you need to sign the ballot with your name + the attached envelope is see-trough. 14 sins of ballot elections Voter suppression: Old, pregnant and people with kids on their arms can vote first Part 2/5
Destruction of the rule of law.
Some of the passages below are taken from this pdf
No member state in the history of the EU has ever gone as far in subjugating its courts to executive control as the current Polish government. The Polish case has become a test whether it is possible to create a Soviet-style justice system in an EU member state; a system where the control of courts, prosecutors and judges lies with the executive and a single party.
Across Europe, national courts recognise the judgements of courts in other member states, whether these involve commercial law, the European arrest warrant or child custody. Judges must assume that courts across the EU operate according to common values and principles set out in the European Union Treaty and in its Charter of Fundamental Rights. Once judges across the EU have reason to doubt whether courts in any member state provide effective judicial protection, the legal order on which the EU rests collapses. Freedom house - How PIS captured Poland’s Courts
Constitutional Tribunal changes
It all began with the constitutional crisis four years ago. Constitutional crisis and the destruction of the rule of law
In 2015, parliament changed the law on the Constitutional Tribunal, which rules on the constitutionality of legislation. The changes allowed them to annul the nominations of three judges made by the previous parliament and appoint their own. It shortened the terms of the tribunal's president and vice-president from nine to three years. The tribunal ruled the move unconstitutional in an open rebellion, but the dispute remains unresolved. Julia Przylebska
- was illegally named the president of the Tribunal court by the president. And now Kaczynski, the PM have meetings at her house. Nice separation of power
There's too much to describe. For further info please visit the link. It is an amazing summary of the whole ordeal. timeline
Supreme Court changes
The European Commission, the EU's executive arm, said one of the most controversial reforms was to do with the Supreme court, which, among other duties, is responsible for confirming election results. The idea was to lower the age of retirement for Supreme Court justices from 70 to 65, but allow the Polish president to grant a five-year extension to whomever they deemed worthy. In 2019, the European Court of Justice (ECJ) — the EU's highest court —ruled this was illegal, after an interim decision ordered 20 already-sacked judges be reinstated. Of course, PIS chose 2 new Constitutional judges, A politician Pawlowicz with communistic past and Piotrowicz, also a politician and a prosecutor that was an active communist during the 80 that prosecuted Solidarnosc. Both of them are above 65 years old.
Ordinary court judges
There were also moves to try a similar tactic in the general court system for judges and public prosecutors, lowering the age of retirement for women to 60 and for men to 65, down from the current 67. Under the reforms the justice minister, who is appointed by the ruling party, would have the power to extend a judge's term. The laws were somewhat adjusted after pressure from the European Commission, but in November 2019 the ECJ shot down these laws, too, citing gender discrimination and political influence over the judiciary.
Disciplinary measures for judges
Another PiS addition allowed judges to be investigated and sanctioned for their court rulings. The disciplinary hearings and procedures were to be carried out by judges selected via parliament. These reforms were criticized by the European Commission because "judges are not insulated from political control and thus judicial independence is violated." The commission brought legal action against Poland on this matter in October 2019.
National Council of the judiciary takeover
In 2017 PiS remodeled the National Council of the Judiciary, which selects candidates for appointment as judges by the President of the Republic. This allowed it, in the short term, to control appointments to the Supreme Court – including to a newly created Disciplinary Chamber, which hears disciplinary cases against judges, and to a new Extraordinary Appeals Chamber, which adjudicates on electoral issues. Over time PiS’ take-over of the National Judicial Council allows it to reshape the entirety of the judiciary. Fifteen of the 25 members of the National Council of the Judiciary were previously elected by judges themselves, as is common practice across Europe for such bodies. These fifteen judges are now elected by the majority in the Sejm, the lower chamber of the Polish parliament. The other ten members of the National Council of the Judiciary are: four members from the Sejm itself (all four members of PiS), two members from the Senate, one representative of the President of the Republic, the Minister of Justice, the president of the Supreme Court and the president of the Supreme Administrative Court. In total 23 of the 25 positions are directly appointed by political authorities.
After the election of the new KRS, a publication of the list with the names of judges declaring their support for specific candidates was refused. The Supreme Administrative Court ruled that those names must be disclosed. However, the Chancellery of the Sejm has yet to carry out the NSA’s ruling. The Constitutional Tribunal (TK) and the President of the Personal Data Protection Office have been roped into guarding the secret. KRS destruction
Muzzle bill The muzzle bill
passed Dec 2019, victimize judges questioning the legitimacy of the government’s legal appointments, saying it is unlawful to “show hostility to other authorities of the Republic of Poland and its constitutional organs or to critisize the basic principles of the Republic of Poland.”The bill also delegalise the preliminary questions to the Court of Justice of the EU (CJEU). The bill also allows to fire judges ( which is unconstitutional according to the Constitution). In average Ziobro dismissed a judge every day and a half from its position of president of court source
One of the worse Covid19 laws in EU.
Trampling Fundamental freedoms using a single ordnance and Critiquing the President will land you a year in jail. report
In the latest special Covid19 law (already 4th lol) PIS smuggled an article straight from a communistic playbook about prosecuting people that critique the president. The sentence can be up to a year. They also smuggled a harsher law for abortions. Can someone tell me HOW it is related to Covid19? source
Illegal presidential pardon Illegal presidential pardon for CBA chief Kaminski
In 2013, Law and Justice (PiS) MP Mariusz Kamiński – who served as head of the anti-corruption agency from 2006 and 2009 – was found guilty of overstepping his powers. He was sentenced to three years in prison and was banned from holding public office for ten years. Polish President Andrzej Duda pardoned Kamiński even though he was still appealing his sentence at the time. The case against Kamiński was then discontinued. A supreme court judge said that the president interfered in the legal process because Kamiński was proven neither innocent nor guilty when he was pardoned, making a future ruling redundant. The judge said that the president can pardon someone after any final appeal has been heard “because then he is not interfering with the judiciary”.
Merging the General Prosecutor with the political Minister of Justice
The general prosecutor role was merged with the minister of justice Ziobro. source
. This handed Ziobro and his subordinates greatly expanded power to politically interfere with rank-and-file prosecutors, their decisions, and their freedoms of speech and association. Poland Is Purging Its Prosecutors 200+ public prosecutors that are loyal to the Minister of Justice Ziobro (from PIS)
All of them got promotions (or someone from their family) or pay raises. another list
Destroying the military
The creation of a territorial defense unit
- a civilian army led by the ministry of defense to control “the situation inside Poland”. In addition, there was a purge of generals.
and killing multibillion deals with France
. About 37 generals and 47 colonels left. Why? Because they had to answer to a 27-year old assistant to the Defense Minister, former pharmacy assistant without a university degree. The Rzeczpospolita daily newspaper reported that Misiewicz was given a top communications job with PGZ ( largest defense consortiums in Central Europe) that pays $12,500 a month, huge sum in a country where the average pre-tax wage is about $1,150 a month. source
PIS decides to overhaul 40-years old t-72 instead of investing in German tanks
. Not enough ammunition, uniforms NVG and other gadget went to the above unit,
In 2015, the Defence minister Macierewicz raided the Nato center in Warsaw at 1am to take control of documents and place their man at the helm
The ministry of Justice is funding trolls to destroy judges Ziobro-Piebiak paid Troll scandal
The Onet news portal published a report alleging that Deputy Justice Minister Łukasz Piebiak “arranged and controlled” an online campaign against Judge Krystian Markiewicz, the head of Iustitia, a judicial organization critical of the government’s efforts to restructure the judicial system, as well as against other inconvenient judges. According to the Onet report, Piebiak operated and financed an online campaign by a woman called Emilia who allegedly sent over 2,000 letters and emails about Markiewicz to other judges as well as to pro-government right-wing media. The messages contained fabricated, semi-confirmed and gossipy details of the judge’s personal life. According to Onet, Emilia obtained Markiewicz’s personal address from Piebiak so she could send him one of the letters.
Taking over the state media
State media was taken over by PIS and is using mass propaganda
Not only they are a propaganda tube but they also offend polish citizens ie – translation: defenders of pedophiles and alimonies-takers are the ones against judiciary reforms
. They call every peaceful protest as a coup
The same can be said about the GUS – general statistical bureau. It is controlled by PIS and it is known to “change” metrics
so every Inflation or unemployment metrics can’t be trusted.
LBGT-free zones and Xenophobia. Fear against refugees
and calls for xenophobia
. A leaked draft of a new Polish migration policy discriminates against Muslims, ranks foreigners according to ethnicity and breaches human rights
My article Why the Polish government is against LGBT?
PIS is supporting LGBT free zones
where a thrid of Poland is declared as LGBT-free
. During the presidential elections in 2020 Gay “ideology” is worse than communism, says Duda - PIS president
Destroying education and HealthCare. PIS cancels the in vitro program
Polish government program that covered most of the in vitro costs was immediately cut by the Law and Justice Party when it came to power in late 2015, even though Poland has one of the lowest birth rates in the EU. Catholic Church opposition to IVF is widely seen as one factor in the Polish government's decision.
PIS also increased the minimum wage at the beginning of 2020. It created a weird paradox where a teacher and a starting MD is earning less than the minimal wage because they get paid from public money and the minimal wage change is for the private sector. And PIS wants to ban sex ed by labeling teachers as gay activists and pedophiles
. Critics say Poland’s governing Law and Justice Party is wrecking the education system for political gain — and students are suffering.
Environment? Destruction of the oldest European forest in Poland by Minister of Environment Szyszko
The Bialowieza Forest is a UNESCO World Heritage site that sprawls across the border between Poland and Belarus, occupying almost 580 square miles of woodland and providing home to rare European wood bison among others. At least 10,000 trees are thought to have been felled in Białowieża, since the Polish environment minister, Jan Szyzko tripled logging limits there in 2016. The EU’s highest court has ruled that Poland’s logging in the Unesco-protected Białowieża forest is illegal, potentially opening the door to multi-million euro fines. “Our (water) resources are comparable to those of Egypt,” it said in the report bearing the ominous title: “Poland, European Desert”
Nepotism and colleagues in state-owned companies
PIS won the elections by wanting to fight nepotism. The most famous was “24yo Misiewicz, a former pharmacy assistant without a university degree was in the defense industry under Macierewicz. The apparent favoritism has raised ethics concerns in a party that won office promising to fight corruption.” source
There is even a webpage listing more than 1000 cases of nepotism under PIS Pisiewicze
Latest data show 162M PLN to 84 PIS oligarchs and Colleagues
Illegal budget for 2017
The 2017 budget "was adopted" not in the Sejm assembly hall, but in a smaller room where the so-called parliamentary session was held immediately as a follow-up to the meeting of the parliamentary causus of PIS, where no reliable counting of vates was possible, and with many allegations taht the opposition MPs were not allowed in. [Constitutional Democracy in Crisis?, Oxfoord, 2018, p.268]
Ex-communists in PIS ranks. And PIS is very anti-left and anti-PRL.
They are accusing the opposition – PO - to consist mostly of ex-communists or communistic party members or collaborators. The issue is that most members of PO fought against the communism and spent months/years in prison in the ’80. On the other hand, the PIS party members scarcely fought for polish liberty and some of its party members are former communistic party members or communistic prosecutors like Piotrowicz
! Some Polish TC judge
are also ex-PRL members. Here
is a list in polish of all current PIS party members who served as PRL members during the communistic era. So, PIS is fighting against itself. Another list with 20 names of ex-party members now in PIS
Funding the Catholic church with public money
PIS is very Pro-Catholic, most of their voters are devout Catholics. So it is no surprise that PIS is funding religious orgs from public money
. Since Law and Justice came to power in 2015, Father Rydzyk’s businesses have received at least $55 million in subsidies from at least 10 ministries and state companies. His Radio Maryja station, which reaches millions and is often the sole source of information for many older voters in rural Poland, offers a daily diet of horror stories about a world without faith, where gay people control the political agenda, universities are corrupted by “neo-Marxists,” and the Roman Catholic Church is under mortal threat. Rydzyk Embroiled in Corruption Allegations Hiding Pedophilia. Map of 259 victims of catholic pedophilia
. When a documentary was released before recent local elections revealing devastating examples of how priests sexually abused children and how church officials covered it up, many in PIS saw it not as evidence of an institution that lost its way, but one that needed to be defended. Piotrowicz, the above communist prosecutor, dismissed in 2001 a case against a priest accused of raping six girls. Polish PIS president Duda pardons a paedophile that raped his own daughter. He makes the pardon a week before elections
The so-called assassination
of Kaczynski's twin president brother in Smolensk created 90M PLN of costs. PIS created a "cult" around his death and even created a special commission that would prove it was an assassination. Kaczynski was using it on every occasion Don't wipe your treacherous mugs with ...
. Ofc they didn’t prove anything and they buried the topic. Every 10th of every month for 3 years, PIS party leader Kaczynski was making a "show" commemorating his dead twin brother. He was using the police to secure his demonstration even if he has no lawful power (he is neither a president, neither the prime minister). New law expanding police surveillance
and the police is getting raises after raises to keep them happy
. The commemorations, the commission and the damages (paid only to the politicians’ families, not to the crew) amounted to 91M PLN.
The welfare revolution
PIS is also very pro-family. The party is giving away 500zl per month for every kid. In short, it has “bought” the elections. The polish economy is unable to sustain such an endeavor roots of populism
. And it costs the economy 80B PLN between 2016 and 2019. The best part? Rate of births is negative for the last couple of years
and inflation is still growing. According to the PIS Stats bureau it is 3.5% and growing. However, many journalists made their own baskets of normal good and services and the inflation is closer to 10%. Additionally there is a growing debt that PIS tries to hide by shifting some debt into other Funds. One of them is the “Solidarity fund” that is not counted in the overall polish GDP, that is to support people with disabilities will pay for the 13th and 14th pension of people 65+.
Funding propaganda and trolls Computational Propaganda in Poland: Russian troll factories PIS bought the Pegasus spyware to spy on its citizens
In September 2018, private broadcaster TVN24 reported that Poland’s state audit body, NIK, was questioning an outlay of over 33 million zloty (€7.6 million euro) by the Justice Fund, a government fund to help victims of crime. According to TVN, the money went toward the purchase of a “new system to spy on telephones and computers, the most expensive system in the history of Polish secret services.” Reports that the covertly purchased system could be Pegasus — a top-performing spyware that is impossible to track — surfaced last week.
Polish troll farms
promoting Duda and Kaczynski
Funding public TV stations
Polish public TV stations should be impartial and public. Not favoring any party nor government and give the same screen time to every party equally. Unfortunately, there was a purge of journalists the moment PIS won the election and the propaganda is stalin-like. Look at this graph how it changed
. Polish TVP is the mouthpiece of the govt
. In 2020 PIS voted to give an additional 2B pln per year for 5 years to public tv. Public Main TV making fun of US ambassador by reading the tweet with a derogatory accent
PIS has hundreds of scandals that each would destroy a modern government. They defrauded billions of PLN over the years, put 1000’s of family members in different state-owned companies. Below are listed the main sexual and financial scandals.
- Sex hotel of the head of the Audit office Marian Banaś , a Law and Justice (PiS) politician and recently appointed chief of Poland’s Supreme Audit Office has been heavily embroiled in a corruption scandal, another to hit the ruling party just weeks before the country votes in a parliamentary election. Mr Banaś served as finance minister from June to August this year, and is a key figure in the party. Mr Banaś concealed his possession of a tenement house in Krakow from his financial disclosures. This property was then revealed to have deep running connections with a local, criminally-run escort agency. He claimed that the house was given to him by an old friend whom he met in the Home Army, which he then renovated. In his disclosures, he claimed he would sell the house, which never happened. Banaś claims that this was due to the buyer’s inability to get a loan. Investigations have further revealed that Mr Banaś agreed to rent the property for 5000 zloty a month, 10,000 zloty lower than its estimated market value, according to Gazeta Wyborcza. Just as the scandal could not apparently get any worse for Mr Banaś, further investigation by journalist Bertold Kittel revealed criminal links. When Mr Kittel entered the property he found at the reception an infamous Krakow criminal known as one of the brothers K – Wiesław or Janusz, who control escort agencies in the region. While still under investigation, there have been suggestions of contact between the two.
- "Alleged" Pedophila and Sex trafficking scandal of House speaker Wirtualna Polska learned the contents of the message of CBA officer Wojciech J. to the prosecutor's office about the failure of the head of the CBA, Ernest Bejda. In the background is a lost record with a recording of one of the leading PiS politicians who should have sex with a minor Ukrainian girl lost. His name falls on the document. In the message, Wojciech J. refers to several reports that he was the head of the office in connection with the "unauthorized access to his armored cabinet during his absence" submitted. From this vault, a record should be lost in escort agencies from the Podkarpacie region. One of the leading PiS politicians should have sex with a young Ukrainian in the recording. The statement signed by lawyer Beata Bosak-Kruczek mentions the name of Sejm spokesman Marek Kuchciński.
- Health minister Szumowski alleged to have bought £1m of PPE from ski instructor friend during pandemic. And givng away £65m grants to companies run by brother public anger has exploded after Polish newspaper Gazeta Wyborcza reported that Szumowski bought masks with fake certificates from a skiing instructor who is friends with his businessman brother, Marcin. Poland’s Health Ministry reportedly spent five million zloty (£1m) on 120,000 FFP-2 type face masks and 20,000 surgical masks that were later found not to meet safety standards, Politico says. The company that sold the masks was registered on the 30 of March and won the govt. contract on the same day. Critics have also questioned Szumowski’s previous dealings in government. Polish news network tvn24 reports that while serving as deputy science minister in 2016-17, he gave 300 million zloty (£60m) in grants from Poland’s National Centre for Research and Development (NCBR) to OncoArendi Therapeutics, a research company run by his brother. Another company in which Szumowski was a shareholder, Life Science Innovation (LSI), was reportedly given a 24 million zloty (£5m) NCBR grant just days after he took up the ministerial post.
- Same Health minister Szumowski bought 1.2 thousand ventilators for PLN 200 million from a company owned by an arms dealer, not a single device was delivered
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2020.10.22 19:52 kt--o-shs-er After six months, I'm finally bringing it up. Weed + psych meds = no libido.
I'm a bi man in a monagamous relationship of about 3 years with a hetero woman. I'm 43, she's 38. We originally met at a mental health support group, we both take medication daily and have had our share of struggles in the past. At first our sex life was awesome, we found ourselves after a few weeks of dating being so sexually active it was actually a problem. It was that punch-drunk overwhelming feeling of bliss I hadn't felt since I was like 23. But it was great. We gradually settled down, which you'd expect, and had a happy sex life for a while - until she started a new medication.
The whole time I've known her she's taken a duplicitous approach to meds. She's very proactive in her care, communicating with her prescriber and counselor, taking meds very regularly. On the other hand, though, she's smoked weed on the daily without a break ever since we met. I've tried to bring it up with her, but she gets really defensive. She knows she's dependent on it, knows it damages her lungs - I bought her a Pax, she doesn't use it - but refuses to discuss it with her providers (at least, she hasn't mentioned discussing it with them to me).
About 9 months to a year ago she started a new med, one that's notorious for weight gain and loss of libido. As she started to gain weight she became more sedentary than she already had been, and libido began to wane until about the time the pandemic started. Since then we've had sex exactly once. It was about the same time we moved in together.
It's come up in conversation a couple of times. She says she still finds me very attractive, but has no libido at all. She said it's 'freeing' in a way, because she used to have a lot of anxiety around sex. I'm like, that's great - for you, I guess.
She's dragged her heels in getting health coverage and despite being in this new state for over half a year she hasn't seen a doctor yet. She continues to smoke weed like it's a food group. We spend about $300 a fcking month on it! I have trouble not smoking, I don't want to, but I have trouble being around her when she's stoned and I'm not. She is always stoned.
A couple years ago she told me that she's ok with me hooking up with guys, which she still is. But the only times the idea of any other type of casual hookup with others has come up, she's insisted she's 'not poly' (that isn't what I want, though, I don't want any outside romance). I actually was mostly interested in having an MFM threeway with another guy, or her hooking up with a guy. Not cuckolding humiliation, just more a voyeuristic kink. That was back when we were sexually active, though. One time I tried to carefully touch on the idea of us being 'open' and me hooking up with another woman, NSA, but she angrily dismissed the idea.
Anyways, all that's off the table. I just don't know what to do. I've fantasized & honestly have come close to cheating, making a booty call to an old flame. I couldn't go through with that though. The guilt was bad enough just thinking about it.
The point I'm at right now, I'm happy being with her, I love her, we're compatible and good for each other in every other way. I'm friends with her family, flown home with her for Christmas, everything is great and fine - except the total lack of sex. Not just sex, though; not even making out. No sexual energy, at all. I'd given up on trying a long time ago. Now I'm so accustomed to suppressing my desires when we're in bed, I hardly know where to start. Plus she's so self conscious about her body, she barely lets me touch her.
I've always loved being romantic with her, bringing her flowers, spending time together. When her best friends got married a while ago, I was inspired, started daydreaming of proposing to her. But I can't do that. Unless this part of our relationship improves, it'd be foolish to make a lifelong commitment. I will not live like this forever.
So, it's coming to the point where we need to address it. Sex isn't a want to me, it's a need, and I ultimately will not be happy without it. I keep longingly perusing certain FB friend's photos, having dreams, and struggling not to stare at people I see at the beach. Honestly if I meet someone who is equally thirsty for me, I'm not sure if I'll be able to resist temptation. I just don't want to find myself betraying her trust.
I guess what I'm mostly hoping for is some advice on how to 'have the talk', as in what works, what doesn't.
What I'm honestly most afraid of is her framing this as a patriarchy / male privilege issue. She's very woke, which I love about her, but sometimes it's to a fault. (That is to say, on occasion, it can turn into raging hypocritical accusatory bullshit.) In my view it's more of a 'are you actually taking care of yourself / will this relationship work?' issue.
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2020.10.17 01:19 Electric_Logan 29, male, high-functioning, virgin. Don't like relationships.. want NSA but feel weird with strangers..
Oh man this is a whole mess of weirdness I don't even really know what I want to ask.. I mean, okay to start off with people don't even think I'm autistic and are surprised when they learn it, they think I'm reight socially competent, I'm hip, cool, stylin' outfits n' all that..
But what people don't know is I've never had a relationship. Long story cut short - undiagnosed, took a hate campaign run against me by a psychopath within my own friendship group in school to make me realise I was weird, that destroyed my self-esteem confidence, I have PTSD from the humiliation and abuse I suffered from him and his lackeys or whatever.
Reached all the milestones late, so finally got to uni at 24. In my first year I had my first kiss, and the only person I've been with in any way to date.. it was one week where me and a girl were hanging out.. but I hated kissing.. it's just awful, don't like it. I didn't even like her I was taking it like a beggars can't be choosers thing.
Anyway I'm sexually frustrated, sexually repressed. Porn addict, because I'm actually very kinky, have a high sex drive and really interested in exciting, adventurous sex.. little to no interest in a relationship. Used to want a girlfriend n' all that jazz in school, but I think I have major trust issues, commitment issues, anxiety about closeness, largely influenced by the bullying in school but also other stuff relating to parental issues (no physical abuse.. possibly psychological abuse, neglect throughout childhood. It didn't feel like that at the time. The parent I'm talking about was not wrong or bad, they were just unwell themselves. 'nuff said). Flash-forward to now I really just want casual sex hookups.
The problem is that I'm anxious with strangers.. that girl I hung out with and made out with briefly when I was 24, I had an anxiety attack after my first kiss. We were outside.. she thought I was cold, I hated the whole experience.. cringe now when I think about it, that I even went along with it because I didn't really like her anyway. ..anyway I get feeling like anxiety attack just when I talk honestly and openly with people.. like when I confessed my feelings for a female friend a few years ago.
I dunno' I suppose if I have any questions it's like..
- Is it too late for me to have NSA? Am I completely undesirable for NSA considering I'm a virgin? It is better to be honest or just lie that "I've not done this in a while"?
- Or I suppose I should at least be honest that I have anxiety about closeness, that I don't like it? I'm very honest and open about being on the spectrum in general, but where it might lead to rejection (going for jobs and trying to 'meet' people) I tend not to be so up front on it. Should I be honest about being on the spectrum?
- What are some good ways to go about pursuing what I want? ..I've tried dating apps but I usually get disheartened and give up, perhaps because my hearts not really in it as it's dating/relationship stuff and again I have no interest in that... and I suppose the ambiguity about what I'm putting the time in for. As in.. looking at a girl's profile it's not clear what exactly she's looking for.. so am I wasting my time with someone who isn't looking for NSA?
The thing is I'm not very good at being up front with shit like that. I'm a pretty brutally honest, outspoken person. People don't like my opinions sometimes because they're unpopular, or critical (shock horror)... but any personal, emotional, sexual, flirty stuff - no dice.
I don't know how to tldr my usually lengthy ramblings so.. if you made it this far thank you... and you probably think I'm a freak, which is cool 'cause I am. I'd still dig the advice though.
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2020.10.13 08:44 zoenpratt26 Top 30 Casual Dating Girls Profiles for NSA Sex
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2020.10.12 20:37 throwaway6464zoolane I (24M) caught my other half (26F) cheating and I'm not sure what to even say
Okay so some context. My gf is at uni and I work. I recently had to move a few hours away to live for a years contract at a new job and my gf stayed at college (originally though she was looking at a gap year to work so the living apart wouldn't be an issue but changed spontaneously). Earlier in the year we were worried about this and chatted about it. My gf suggested swinging or having an open relationship as we won't really get to see each other for 2 years do to college obligations. I said I'd think about it but did not consent to the idea stating I wasn't sure.
She came over this week to spend time with me and all was happy and fine but something felt a little out of place. So I checked her phone whilst she was having a shower and found messeges, evidence of meets etc from many guys. If I had even been included in these messeges I could have understood it a bit better but instead in these messeges I'm an ex and talked about like a real piece of shit. What's more these messeges go back before she bought up the idea of having a open relationship so I'm now met with the realisation the only reason she bought it up was to validate what's been going on behind my back. On one occasion she messeged me telling me along the lines of "you won't cheat will you" only for me to see that was the night she went out for a car ride with some guy that she'd asked if he was looking for NSA.
I haven't seen proof she has been having sex with anyone or her sending nudes (it's possible the chats were deleted though) but the evidence and the pretending I'm some ex that was an asshole to her is pretty damning I guess? I haven't said anything yet, I'm not even sure what to say. I think she left some messeges for me to find out of guilt but I'm sure she didn't know just how far I could dig into this and see stuff she was actually trying to hide.
TLDR: found messeges on my gfs phone after I move away (dating from before I moved) from many guys with evidence of meets etc. I'm not sure what to do considering the living situation will go one for 2 years as she stayed on at Uni instead of taking a gap/work year like she'd originally planned. I'm pretty numb as to what to do.
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2020.10.09 21:51 babywetsallnight Male Unicorn (pegasus) early 30's, feeling hopeless with the current state of dating apps
I'm a mostly straight, but closet-bi male, looking for a MF couple for an intimate friendship and good times. Once, in college, I had the extremely lucky opportunity to fulfill this desire. It lasted about 6 months and never would have happened if it wasn't for the long gone Casual Encounters pages of Craigslist. They shared similar interests with me and both found me very attractive. It was friendship first, sex second and I was sexually interested in both parties. Perhaps the man even moreso. It was pretty vanilla sex tbh, but that's what I wanted. Anyway, I've always desired for another scenario like this, but I have no clue how to go about it with the current state of online dating.
I know people are going to say Fetlife, but fuck that. Just because I want a 3 way fwb situation with a guy and a girl, doesn't mean I have a "fetish". It's so insulting! There's also the chance that local friends could discover my profile. Plus the community on apps like that is far too sexually forward and does not fit what I'm looking for at all. With OKC and Tinder (which suck for this) it's easier to just upload some pics and a brief blurb about yourself, without revealing what you're really looking for, and then going hunting. Bumble is full of Christians, etc.
Yesterday, I stupidly got back on OKC (which was great for this type of thing once upon a time) and paid for the $15 A-List only to find out they got rid of the search! WTF?! Not only does that suck for unicorns, it sucks for anyone interested in nsa non-monogamy, which is a hell of a lot of people these days. What gives? I feel like there should be a subreddit for this sort of thing
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2020.10.08 08:27 vansugar_ Using SA for vanilla dating??
Hi so I recently got seeking arrangements and have been talking to a few POT but I’ve noticed quite a few guys using the site for vanilla dating with no intention of any payment and then when I bring it up I get left on read like I’m crazy for asking for monetary compensation in the mutual beneficial arrangement? Seeking is a site for sugar relationships so am I the weird one thinking that’s what people are using it for or are they for using it just for vanilla dating when they don’t have any intention or means for sugar. Just looking for casual NSA sex. This just confused me and I didn’t see anyone talk about it here when I searched
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things first, 4 billion years to create the high-advanced funny anime characters doing funny poses, it's a evolution on our society and on our planet, nothing as it has been seem ever. Also if you don't like gacha... MATE.... DO YOU KNOW HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING TO? I'M A EX-NAVY SEAL WHO FOUGHT IN THE BIGGEST WAR THE WORLD HAS EVER SEEM, AND IF YOU GET A FUCKING LITTLE BIT OF CRITICISM TOWARDS GACHA, MATE I'M GONNA HACK YOU TROUGH RAT (Remote Administration Tool) AND THEN TRACK YOU DOWN, AND AFTER THAT I'LL PASS MONTHS, YEARS, EVEN DECADES STUDYING YOUR COMPORTMENT, LIKE A TIGER STALKING HIS PRAY, AND AFTER I SEE IT'S A GOOD TIME, I'LL GET THE INCENDIARY ANTI-METERIAL RIFLE I GOT FROM MY 5° YEAR IN THE ARMY AND BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOU. I'LL SHOOT THE INCENDIARY BULLET TOWARDS YOUR CAR, EXPLODING IT MAKING YOU GET PTSD, AND THEN WHEN YOU'RE ON THE PSYCHIATRIC HOSPITAL, I'LL GET IN THERE, GET MY BLOWING CAR AUDIO THAT I GOT FROM YOUR CAR EXPLODING, AND PUTTING RIGHT IN YOUR EAR, SO YOU CAN SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF THE CRITICISM TOWARDS THE BEST COMMUNITY IN THE WORLD.
Ok, so let me explain why is gacha the best app. Gacha has alot of awesome epic gaming gaming zoomies zoomer features, like "Twerk" animation and an awesome skin-color default clothe for people who don't "normal" clothes. Also the community is so worried about children that they took about 2 years or more to take out the "sexual" animations. Also our community is so united and wholesome! For example we have the pedos, the children who make gacha sex, kids who think depression is aesthetical and much more! If you think that's enough, the stair goes on, we have our own art style, and again, PRE-MADE BODIES AND COSTUMIZATIONS ARE ART!!!!!! IF YOU THINK THE OPPOSITE I'LL NOT ONLY MAKE YOU GET PTSD, WHEN YOU FALL IN THE GROUND ALL BLOODY-FUCKED AND ALMOST DIEING, I'LL GET NEAR YOU AND DO LIKE THE GUY IN AMV FROM LIL DARKIE DID, I'LL BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOU UNTIL I FUCKING FALL IN THE GROUND.
SO IF YOU REALLY THINK YOU CAN MAKE FUNNY HAHAH FUNNIES ABOUT GACHA BEING TRASH... MATE.... DO YOU KNOW HOW THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING TO? I'M A EX-NAVY SEAL WHO FOUGHT IN THE BIGGEST WAR THE WORLD HAS EVER SEEM, AND IF YOU GET A FUCKING LITTLE BIT OF CRITICISM TOWARDS GACHA, MATE I'M GONNA HACK YOU TROUGH RAT (Remote Administration Tool) AND THEN TRACK YOU DOWN, AND AFTER THAT I'LL PASS MONTHS, YEARS, EVEN DECADES STUDYING YOUR COMPORTMENT, LIKE A TIGER STALKING HIS PRAY, AND AFTER I SEE IT'S A GOOD TIME, I'LL GET THE INCENDIARY ANTI-METERIAL RIFLE I GOT FROM MY 5° YEAR IN THE ARMY AND BEAT THE SHIT OUT OF YOU. I'LL SHOOT THE INCENDIARY BULLET TOWARDS YOUR CAR, EXPLODING IT MAKING YOU GET PTSD, AND THEN WHEN YOU'RE ON THE PSYCHIATRIC HOSPITAL, I'LL GET IN THERE, GET MY BLOWING CAR AUDIO THAT I GOT FROM YOUR CAR EXPLODING, AND PUTTING RIGHT IN YOUR EAR, SO YOU CAN SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF THE CRITICISM TOWARDS THE BEST COMMUNITY IN THE WORLD.I feel bad for cumming on my turtle
Why the fuck would I do that. I should have never masturbated in front of my turtle. So basically I was watching porn in my 55 inch tv and my turtle was next to me in the couch. The porno was really old. It was a DVD from 2002. It was probably the hottest porn I have ever watch and honestly I'm probably going to watch porn on dvd instead from the internet. The only reason I had my turtle with me was because whenever I cum, I feel really depressed and lonely, so I thought that if my turtle watched with my I wouldn't feel lonely. Well I started stroking my willie, I used lotion, i took all my clothes off, but my dumbass forgot the tissues. I realized that I forgot to grab tissues but it was too late. I was going to cum. I didn't want to cum everywhere so I had to think fast. It was when I saw my turtle when I realized what I had to do. I came like a motherfucker. My turtle was painted with my cum in his tiny little face and all around his shell. He didn't say a word about it, he didn't move, he just stood there looking at me like I killed a bunch of children. I would never forgot the look my turtle gave me. His disappointing face broke my heart. I put on my clothes, I took my turtle to the bathroom and cleaned him off. What happened, happened. But my turtle would never forgot what happened. My turtle, Tommy, would never forgive me. Today, I passed by him and I know he still remembers what i did to him 3 hours ago. My only wish, is that one day, Tommy the turtle will forgive me for my horrible sins.Please be sure to SPANK that like button SUBSCRIBE to me on YouTube HIT that notification bell FOLLOW me on Twitter LIKE my Facebook page READ MY BLOGS on Tumblr BUY access to my private Instagram FEED my dying NeoPets EMAIL ME your favorite pizza roll flavor DONATE on Twitch DONATE your left kidney VOTE in the upcoming election BECOME A MEMBER of my new MLM company VACCINATE my children and be sure to check out this channel for more content in the future.Do your balls hang low? Do they wobble to and fro? Can you tie 'em in a knot? Can you tie 'em in a bow? Can you throw 'em o'er your shoulder Like a continental soldier Do your balls hang low? Does your dick stick out? Can you waggle it about? Can you flap it up and down As you fly around the town? Can you shut it up for sure When you hear an awful bore? Does your dick stick out?Sorry, your post has been removed due to it carrying pro-Trump messages. Reddit does not support such harmful or hateful ideologies.
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my friend Karen (69F) invited me (420M) and several other people to her baby's gender reveal party. I thought this was a very important occasion. Now, I thought it would be a good idea to create a smoke machine for the party and really dazzle the other guests there. I grabbed a bubble machine that I used for a kid's birthday party a while back and replaced the bubble mixture in it with gasoline, and thought that was that.
Fast forward to the all-important gender reveal party several days later, I bring the makeshift smoke machine with me. I get it set up and when Karen tells me to turn it on, it works for a few seconds before turning into a literal flamethrower and lighting the yard on fire. Everyone screams and runs away. Now, I went and turned it off, then tried dumping a bottle of water on the fire. I managed to partially put it out, but by then it had already creeped over the wooden fence and into the forest behind it. "Oh shit," I thought. We called the fire department but by the time they arrived it had already spread waaaaay too far for them to control, especially in the hot and dry state of California.
TL;DR: Was invited to a gender reveal party, decided to make my own smoke machine to dazzle the guests, smoke machine becomes flamethrower and burns everything, fire couldn't be stopped despite the best efforts of us and the local fire department. you fucker, you goddamn worthless piece of shit, I completely despise you and every atom in your pathetic body. If I knew you were within fifty miles of me I would track you down and curb stomp your skull into concrete until your smooth brain and eyes pop out, you dumbfuck. I wouldn't piss in your mouth if you were dying of thirst, in fact I would hit you in the stomach until you throw up all food you had eaten before that so you die in even more pain, you scumbag, you absolute shitfaced rodent. At least Adolf Hitler had the excuse of being mentally deranged with a horrible past, but you? you've got no fucking excuse for this utter bullshit, you fucking cum stain of a creature, fuck you. You deserve your tiny cock and balls to be publicly guillotined while your fingers are being ripped off by rabid pitbulls, and your eyes are being flooded with ants. You piss drinking cretin, you rock eating dumbass, you scumbag, you chihuahua fucking mongrel, you fuck faced shit eating faggot. You are such a fucking baboon you'd probably believe if someone told you that you could jump off of a 70 story building and be fine if you land head first. I'd call you a clown and tell you to go back to the circus but you're too fat and lazy to work there and too ugly and retarded to be a circus animal. It costed nothing not to commit that act of complete terror yet you did it anyways, you dopebrained shithead. Out of all of the sperm unloaded into your mom's vagina you were the worst possible result there was. It could've been a man that somehow found a way to achieve world peace, it could've been a famous celebrity that inspired millions, it could have been someone who fought for their country and saved their friends in war, but no, it was you instead, a fat fucking virgin who's best accomplishment for humanity is accidentally giving an eight year old at McDonalds ten chicken nuggets instead of nine. Fuck you.I am always so tempted to carefully fish my poop out of the toilet with my hands, lay it gently on the plate, dry it off with some toilet paper and take it into the kitchen.
There, I grab some bread and get the toaster going. Put the bread in, wait for the bread to be ready, then get a butter knife but put it to better use than just butter; cut the poop into neat slices, then put it on the bread, mash it around a little, enjoy the view. It looks like Nutella, but it's way better. Looks better. Smells better. Tastes better.
Then I put my sandwich in the preheated oven for some time. I don't put a timer on, my soul will tell me whenever it's ready. In half an hour, I get out black bread and black poop on it. I take a bite. It tastes amazing.
I sit on the floor in the kitchen, eating my poop sandwich. I love the taste of burn. I love everything about it. I don't need anything else in life. Just burnt poop sandwiches. Looking for a female roomate to pay $0 rent I will not charge you money, but I will be sharing my bed with you as the other room is being used by my parents. They are aware of this arrangement as I have done this before but it has not worked out for reasons rather not say on here. I will expect hugs at least 5 times a day, and cuddles at least 2 times a day for at least 10 minutes each. You will not be dating any other man during this arrangement, you will have no male friends either. You may have female friends and they may visit if they like. You will also be required to make me meals 3 times a day. Physical requirements are as stated: Must be shorter than 5'5", weigh no more than 120 Ibs, caucasian or asian only, republican, biologically female, no tattoos, no Muslims, no vegans, no smoking/ vaping, marywania, and you MUST shave legs and underarms. I am 44-male/290 Ibs last time I checked, 5'6". Please contact me if you would like this arrangement. everyoneI was hacked
My computer has malware
I had a bathroom emergency and forgot to lock my computer
I have amnesia
I wanted to ask if "ok n-----" is offensive
I'll be honest, I got lucky, but the girl typed it
My dog jumped on the keyboard
God did it
Suddenly my computer froze and i had an unsaved excel sheet so I started typing anything and everything to get it to unlock
I was writing a paper and was in the middle of recording a quote when switched to zoom and I forgot to switch back
My question is about the African country
I had a stroke
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I was searching for that bridge video of pewdiepie and incidentally typed that into the search
4chan hacked me
NSA hacked meHello, a year ago I contracted a rare disorder called cummeningoracismoengeneralo disease. It is only in males. Every time the n word is said in general, I cum. I thought it wouldn't be that bag, but it is, I just can't stop cumming, you racist fucks. one time I was taking a piss and it happened, a raid began, and I came so hard my bathroom walls were painted fucking white, it looked like someone blew up my dick, it was so painful I pleasantly sobbed to sleep, and it's no better when I'm asleep. Because of all the black gay midget porn posted around the server at night in the NSFW chat yall get crazy with the vocabulary. Every time I wake up I'm covered in crusty cum, and it spills over onto the floor, my house is flooded with cum. I once had to go to a doctor because I had a concussion and they had to kick me out because I was cumming over and over. My neighbors sent a noise complaint and I get bullied at school because of the puddle of cum always in my pants. I remember during the server raid a while back, I came so much I farted out of my dick, I called it a deef. To the mods of the server, please end this cummening and make an announcement or rule ban the n word. I came approximately 24 times while making this.Can you imagine the crazy ass abilities Katara had as a water bender? I'm not talking about fighting, I'm talking about sex.
Think about it, instant enema for her. She would be down for anal almost anytime of the day. Oh man, and the saliva play. I'm pretty sure it doesn't work like this, but can you imagine being lathered in her spit? She'll tongue box the inside of your mouth and work her magical sex organ down your chest and on to your dick. The saliva in her mouth would give your a whirlpool like blowjob if she really wanted to. It would be like having a rotating fleshlight with a tongue to make sure your dick is the cleanest it'll ever be.
On top of all that, when the full moon comes out, you best be ready for a mind numbing orgasm as she plays with the blood inside you're erected phallus, and contorts your dick in pleasurable ways that's physically and legally not possible. Katara could cumbend your spunk and give herself a full body bathe in it. The reason Aang looked so young during the avatar state was because he died in his mid-40's, blasting rope one last time in a seizure like orgasm on a full moon.ඞ
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2020.10.02 07:42 slutsonthemove how do we deal with one-way jealousy?
tl;dr - Wife has opened things up on her end. Wants me to have the same freedom but can't get over the jealousy. We're stuck. Please help.
This might get a bit long, so please bear with us. My wife and I have been married for 13 years. When we met, our courtship was hot, heavy, and brief before we got pregnant (oops but awesome!). In that short time we both said we couldn't imagine a life of monogamy. But then life happened. Two kids, jobs, countless moves all over the world. We found ourselves in an unexpectedly traditional monogamous relationship. There were occasional threesomes or trips to sex clubs while on vacation, but by and large, we were monogamous. This was adequate but not great for both of us while we were struggling to make ends meet and raise kids, but as the kids got older and our financial situation became more stable, we've both been rediscovering our latent sexuality. Basically, now that we can identify as more than parents and wage slaves, we're remembering the freaks we once were.
I have, for years, told her that she has carte blanche to do whatever she wants. She never took me up on the offer, mostly because neither of us were really into trying to make alternative arrangements while we were together, but the possibility was always there. We had a few encounters with other guys and the very rare encounter with another woman, but that was it. We've messed around on some lifestyle sites over the years but never mustered the courage to meet anyone, either together or separately.
So fast forward to now and we find ourselves living in separate countries due to work. My commitment to her that I trust her and she can do whatever she wants with whomever she wants stands. She wasn't comfortable giving me the same privileges but I told her (and genuinely believed) that it was okay. Of course I want the same freedom but I understood her reservations. I just want her to be happy and satisfied and it makes me feel good to know that she is feeling good (I think they call this compersion, right?). Just because she can't feel that way for me, does not mean I should punish her. Anyways, for the first five months or so of our separation, nothing happened. Then she met a guy and they pretty quickly started hooking up. She told me when they started texting, kept me in the loop, and told me when it moved forward. I was (and still am) okay with it and I'm happy that she's found companionship while we are apart. I 100% know that she and I are an inevitable force of nature. There's no jealousy here and no concerns about our relationship.
But what came as a surprise to me was the fact that while I wasn't jealous that she had a partner, I did become jealous that I couldn't. We talked about it. Our initial conversations were, quite honestly, not productive but once we (okay I) calmed down and we spoke rationally she agreed that it isn't fair and that we need to find a better arrangement. She agreed that I could move forward with trying to meet someone myself. So here I am as a 40 year old who hasn't been on the dating scene since before smartphones were a thing. I don't think either of us had any expectation that an arrangement would just fall into my lap. But that's exactly what happened. Through the magic of tinder, I met someone who was looking for an NSA partner in my area. I told my wife about her once we started chatting and, after a few days met her for a drink. We met in a public place. Got to know each other briefly, and went our separate ways. When I told the wife about the meeting, though, she got really upset. We talked about it and she told me that while she academically wants me to have that freedom, there is some instinctual response that hurts her when she thinks of me with someone else.
So here's the hard part. That was a few weeks ago and we've had a lot of talks about it since. Obviously I haven't moved forward at all with my new friend while we figure this out. She genuinely is enjoying her newfound freedom and excitement with her new friend and she genuinely wants the same for me. I 100 percent believe her when she tells me this. We don't lie to each other and she's a terrible liar anyways so I would know if she's making it up : ) So when she ways she wants me to be free to have fun and explore on my own, I genuinely believe it. But, the thought of me doing so almost physically hurts her. I can't stand that because I hate to hurt her but I also despise the idea of being treated like a possession (which we also have discussed). So that's where we are now. We are having very honest discussions about it and it makes me extremely happy to hear that she wants for me what I want for her, but we just can't seem to get her emotional reaction to match up with her intellectual understanding of where we are. It seems like calling this jealousy is too simple a term, but for lack of any better way to describe it, how do we help her overcome her jealousy? We both want to fix this, but we don't know how. We've ordered The Jealousy Workbook and we both plan to work through it together. In the meantime, do you awesome people have any advice for us?
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